The first dates can be really terrible, but there are some small tricks that could save you the evening!
Each appointment always causes great anxiety, let alone if it is the first. Let’s figure out if, in addition to being the first, you are also a shy girl who hates situations far from your comfort zone.
To be clear, you have to be ready for anything when your ideal evening is pizza + film.
Sometimes, you can face funny encounters that you can’t even share with your close friends because of embarrassment.
If, however, you want to try to see how you are on the other side of the sofa, that is, you want to be the protagonist of a film instead of the one who watches the movies with a bowl of popcorn in his hand …
Here are some tips!
1. Remember that you are human
Humans are not perfect!
Do not carry the world’s weight on your shoulders, you will get tired, and you will get absolutely nothing: moments of silence will be inevitable. Smile of embarrassment and continue your evening, don’t be afraid!
2. Don’t forget to love yourself
If you tend to be a “jeans + T-shirt” person in normal life, going to the appointment with a long dress and a 12 heel could make you incredibly uncomfortable, especially because it is far from your being.
Look for a compromise, elegant but without giving up something that pampers you: do not add anxiety to your anxieties!
3. Be prepared
Find out what the evening’s conversations could be. If your date is a “friend of friends” you can ask them what their interests are while if it is a boy known on an app, in 97% of cases, you need to have a look at his social networks. Topics to start from there will certainly make you feel more relaxed!
4. Develop a plan B
First of all, make sure your friends know where you are and, if needed, for an emergency operation and make sure you have a plan B.
This may be an aunt who has been locked in the house, your roommate arguing with the neighbor’s cat, your granddaughter, who is in desperate need of paracetamol and must necessarily go to the pharmacy. If the situation is really terrible, nobody forbids you to get out!
5. Find the best way to search
For some, apps are the new frontier of interaction; others prefer to go to a bar and interact with people at the counter: neither method is wrong, you just have to understand which one is the best for you.
Okay, forcing yourself a little to get out of the comfort zone, but pushing too hard makes you feel bad. There is nothing wrong with wanting to take a step back!
6. Don’t kill the conversation
There are thousands of multiple-choice questions: “yes,” “no,” “maybe.”
The problem is that these questions do not lead to other questions and risk killing a topic in the bud.
“You have a dog.”
At that point, one of those embarrassing silences will arise, necessary but still embarrassing, which could put you in difficulty.
Always add something to the answer, and don’t forget to ask your interlocutor questions!
7. Schedule a four-person appointment
Go out with a friend and plan the appointment with her: a double date is certainly less demanding than a single date, especially if one of the people sitting at the table knows you and is ready to meet you in case of need.
After all, we know it’s true: having an ally next to you can really make a difference!