In a relationship, there are determining factors to find the right balance.
We could say that the fundamental pillars for a good relationship, be it as a couple, friendship or family, are trust, respect, good communication, empathy, and cooperation.
Physical attraction and enjoying healthy intercourse is additional for a Romantic relationship.
Although the factors that favor a good relationship may seem obvious, it is worth remembering them and reflecting on them from time to time to evaluate what things we can improve.
I summarize in this article six important points for a good relationship:
1. Respect above all
We all get angry from time to time, and it is normal for a couple to arise conflicts, some discussion, or conflicting opinions. It is not about never getting angry or not saying what bothers us. It is about always talking with respect to the other person.
Insults, threats, shouting, or devaluations are not to be tolerated in any case, as they are a form of violence that profoundly hurts. It is important to know how to manage our emotions so that anger does not dominate us. It is preferable to take time before responding or postpone the discussion to another time if we are very bothered. On the other side, we should never tolerate offenses. It is important to restrict them. Some keys to assertive communication can be helpful in these situations. This is applicable to all relationships, not only for couples.
Disrespect can only do separation emotionally and destroy the love between two people. So respect must always be above everything.
2. Kindness and signs of affection
Sometimes, with time, confidence, and routine, our partners’ signs of affection and kindness are neglected. We must not forget them! We all like them to be kind and loving to us.
A smile and a “good morning” with a kiss, saying “good night,” asking for things with a “please” and giving thanks are good habits that favor emotional closeness with our partner. And also some sincere compliments from once in a while feel great!
It is not a matter of simple rules of courtesy, nor of being “sweethearts,” but of making life as a couple more pleasant, and showing that we respect, love, and consider the other.
3. Be Reliable
A very important factor in a love relationship is trust. Confidence is often manifested in small details, such as being on time for dates, remembering commitments, and keeping promises we make.
Be consistent between what we say and do and show our involvement in the details of everyday life. A relationship is based on mutual trust; the other person must know that they have your support and that they can trust you.
4. Promote good communication.
It is not necessary to have “deep” conversations every day or always talk about our feelings and conflicts. Still, we must be careful not to go to the other extreme and that the communication in the couple does not focus exclusively on banal and usual topics.
In addition to physical attraction, in a love relationship, it is important to have a mental connection, to feel each other; the freedom to speak about any topics, concern us the most.
Knowing how to express assertively what we like and what not, speaking fluently about our feelings and concerns, expressing our opinions, and listen to everything, having interesting talks on various topics, all this fosters closeness and complicity with our partner.
5. Being a “team.”
Many of the decisions we make, directly or indirectly, end up affecting our partner. So the most logical thing would be to make a mutual agreement, as a team, and taking the other one into account.
When you make a habit of making decisions in a relationship, the connection between the couple gets stronger.
It is also essential to build faith in a team: making the same goal, sharing experiences, and solving problems together.
It is certain, sometimes there might be differences in opinion, but despite this, it is important to make an agreement respecting the idea of each other, and to feel the other by their side (instead of feeling confronted).
It is important to feel that your partner is “on your side,” the feeling of “being from the same team” even in the face of mistakes or troubles.
6. Be considerate in daily life
In daily life, you may have some habits that bother your partner and vice versa. Although they may seem an unnecessary part of life, they can gradually create conflict over time.
For example; If your partner blames you for leaving things out of place, unwashed dishes, smoking in the bedroom, or leaving the toilet lid up. These behaviors should be appropriately maintained. These things, in the long run, can weaken the relationship of a couple.
It is also a sign of affection to have small positive details towards the other person in our day to day: prepare your favorite dish, leave a loving note or give encouragement if we know that a hard day awaits you, ask how the day has gone. , a back massage, etc.
Obviously, we are talking about some habits, not personality traits or things like that. We can not pretend to “change” the other person completely, or “be another” to please our partner: what we mentioned here are little coexistence habits if we can change the partner without much effort.
It will always be necessary to accept some things that we do not like, but making an effort to change small habits and promote good practices to improve coexistence brings us closer to our partner and makes day to day more pleasant.
As I mentioned at the beginning, these factors are quite obvious, but it is good to remember them from time to time to evaluate what we can improve to get closer to our partner and enjoy a healthy relationship.